Just wanted to take a brief aside here, partly because I am getting close to the end of this history, and partly because I am procrastinating a little bit about getting to the present, which is something incredibly dear to me, and about which I still need to decide how much I want to share.
Over time, there have been a long string of sites that I have visited for indulgence in my smoking fetish. There's always the random searching for what new thing may be out there. And there are always a vast majority of sites that either suck, aren't my particular interest or, in some cases, horrify me. Just as there are a million different fetishes, and a million different sexual preferences and positions, there are also a million different ways in which the smoking fetish can be indulged or viewed. And some of them make me feel like a prude!
I've always been more of a fan of the non-sexual variety of smoking fetish. No nudity. No sex. No over-made-up or scantily dressed scenes. No additional fetish elements. Just the normal, average, pretty girl. Probably something to do with the good girl being bad phenomenon. This should probably be part of a separate entry, so I'll hold that thought.
One of the first sites I discovered, as I mentioned previously, that I found useful and interesting was the Smoking from all Sides website. There were a few reasons for this, but the two main reasons were a) it had the Female Celebrity Smoking List, which answered every question I had always wondered about movies and movie stars; it's like the IMDB of smoking! And, b) it had a laundry list of links that enabled me to branch out and find other sites with potentially interesting content.
In those early days, the first site I routinely visited was Kohary's Cove, which had a small set of clips taken from movies. The webmaster for this site was the first person with a smoking fetish with whom I'd ever had a conversation (via email). So that interaction was one of the first "validating" experiences for me. He seemed cool. He seemed "normal". And he had a smoking fetish too. So maybe I'm not a freak?
Around the same time, there also came out two similarly named websites. One was something like Celebsmoking, and the other was something like Smokingcelebs. One or both is still in existence, though one of them seemed to go heavily in the ad-supported direction not too many years after its inception, which made it less wonderful to browse. The first site had more links to movie clips in a well organized (by actress or by movie) format. The other site had a long alphabetical list with links to video captures from movies and other media. I spent a lot of time looking here. Eventually Kohary stopped updating his site, and these kept going, so that was my new one-stop shopping for fetish materials. I remember being driven bananas by slow dial-up downloads for those tiny 10 second video clips! Oh, the days.
I was never a huge fan of the paid content sites, but there were a couple that provided a fair-to-large amount of free content, and I spent a lot of time on them. One of these was, of course, Coherent Light. As I'm sure all of you know, that was a killer site, and really, in my opinion, was the first site that "got it right" in terms of understanding that the lighting was everything. The sexiest smoking style in the world is only about 20% as exciting as it can be, if you don't have the right lighting. Coherent Light only had a few models, who were a bit on the slutty side. Another site that had similarly high quality videos, with slightly less emphasis on lighting, and more focus on a wide array of attractive models, on the more "everyday girl" and less "slutty" side was the Smoking Models website. In the early days, they had a lot of free preview material, but over time, it seemed like they provided less and less, until now, where it seems like you can view one clip, or something?
With the occasional branching out to search for new material, these sites covered a good portion of my early internet years of the smoking fetish. In more recent years, things migrated away from all of those sites. At some point in time, I discovered the Random Snaps site. Since that point in time, it has been pretty much the only site that I would regularly check for updates. I never purchased a video from them, though I think that is more a product of the fact that I didn't want to pay $35 to do so. But they provided a fairly massive quantity of photos and free video clips to watch online. And Random Snaps had a few things going for it (still does). First, they understand and use much of the same lighting technique that made Coherent Light so successful. Second, they chose very attractive (mostly) models who, in many cases (though not all) were more along the natural, everyday girl look. Third, they seem to focus primarily on women smoking Marlboro Red which, for reasons I cannot explain, is more of a turn-on to me than the things that many others find attractive (all-white, holders, 120s -- not digging any of that). And finally, being that it's called Random Snaps, there was a lot of emphasis on snap inhales which, again, for reasons I cannot explain, are a significant turn-on to me.
Add to the list of recent (past several years) interests Smoking Vanessa, Smoking Sweeties, TLS Smoking-Sweethearts, and you've pretty much got the list, along with brief exploration of the Smoke Signals website, as well.
Sometime in the past 5-10 years, maybe only 5-6 years, I made the discovery that You Tube (or, similarly, Daily Motion) was a viable location for discovery of smoking fetish material. For awhile, it seemed like the library of available items on there was growing and growing. And over the past 1-2 years, it actually seems like that library is shrinking. I am not sure why. There are probably readers of this blog who can answer that question for us. I could hypothesize that people discovered that they could make money, so they've taken it to another forum. Another possibility is that You Tube is trying to block certain types of content when they get wise to them. Smoking Fetish could be in a gray area, because of the quasi-sexual nature of it.
(I'm really going on a rabbit-hole tangent here)
Like I said, I am not into the sex plus smoking stuff. I flat out don't like "porn". Never have. Never will. Not sure why. And even nudity is distracting, when it comes to the fetish. The only thing that's quasi-sexual that I would re-watch are the tiny number of videos that involve a couple of women smoking and kissing each other. That, I cannot help. I'm sorry. And there are like 3 good videos of it, on the entire billion terabytes that are "The Internet". You'd think that people would be making lots of these videos. Wouldn't you? But nope. There's three. And you probably know which three I'm talking about. Two of them are really good (one was from Coherent Light), and the other one is really so-so. Okay, maybe there are 4 of them, total.
But other than smoking girl-girl kisses, I don't want to see people having sex while smoking. I don't want to see people doing bondage while smoking. I don't want to see people being disgraced, or being treated like slaves. I don't want to see giant breasts, or 4 inch finger nails, or men dressed as women. I don't want to see leather. I don't want to see insane amounts of makeup.
So, those restrictions pretty much exclude about 85% of what's available online. But such is life.
In the You Tube world was where I discovered clips of people such as... Vanessa, whose smoking style is actually not really up my alley, but her videos are decent enough to warrant watching when all other options run out... Ms Inhale, who doesn't do it for me at all, though she seems to be quite prolific on there, so someone must be watching her... And then, much as I hate to acknowledge it, I had quite the thing for the one who calls herself MissAssSnatch (what a name!), in spite of the fact that she gives the impression of being a slightly twisted individual, in a variety of ways. In the past year, it seems like she's pulled most of her material off You Tube and now has the apparent promise of a personal website, which one would assume will be a pay-site, though it has had nothing but a splash screen since she first announced it long ago (last I checked). One other that I'll mention, though I don't even know her name (real or fake) was a woman who had only two videos of her smoking posted by either a friend or boyfriend. The poster's handle was "mattcos". I liked these videos because the lighting was stellar -- I'd go so far as to say it even surpassed Coherent Light -- and because it captured the very much "everyday girl" profile -- blue jeans and a t-shirt, in a setting that didn't feel staged, or ridiculous. Those videos show the difference that great lighting can provide. There are subtle things that I imagine you'd rarely observe in the real world, even, that were visible in his couple of videos.
Occasionally, I have become a follower of a certain person's videos on You Tube, not because I found them particularly attractive or even good at smoking, but because their videos were either entertaining, or curious to me. One example I can think of was this girl Mary Ellen, who was apparently a non-smoker who needed to learn how to smoke, using herbal cigarettes, for a role she was going to play in a short independent film she was making with her friends. The series of videos diaried her progress in learning to smoke. And she never got very good at it. But it was entertaining enough that I kept watching. Then, there was another girl who is so-so, and not a great smoker, and sits on her bathroom floor and basically vlogs (video blog). She's moderately amusing. Not sure why. I'd probably be friends with her. And there are others who have prominently posted themselves all over You Tube. Many of them are attractive, and actually have decent smoking style, but suffer from horrible lighting. Then, some of them are kind of scary, but you find yourself watching them anyway. So the pursuit of the fetish online is not always entirely about finding the sexiest thing you can find, to stimulate the precise elements of the fetish that turn you on the most. There can be a bit of channel surfing. And sometimes, during the surfing of fetish sites, you occasionally find yourself watching the equivalent of FOX News.
There are only two places from which I have ever paid to view smoking fetish materials. The first was the Smoke Signals website. I never spent much time there, because of the absence of free viewing. But then I discovered that, for a small monthly price, there was a large quantity of unlimited download material. So a couple of times over the past few years, when I was single and horny, I joined for a month. I would download a whole bunch of stuff. Look at it. Um... masturbate. And then, after a few weeks, cancel the membership, and delete all of it. I don't know why I deleted it. It's not that I expected it would no longer be interesting to me. I guess I just didn't want it hanging around on my computer, because it would mean that I had a porn collection of sorts. If it's all on the internet, then it's not my collection, and somehow that feels less seedy. I'm being somewhat facetious, but obviously there's a nugget of honesty in that assertion.
And besides Smoke Signals, I purchased (and again, eventually deleted) maybe a handful of clips from the Smoking Sweeties website, because they're cheap (five or six bucks each) and they're reasonably long videos, depicting, in some cases, a style that I was interested in watching. The thing is, they're not really that cheap, but in Euros it sounded cheaper. So bad on me for being incapable of multiplying by 1.38, and good on them for knowing how to get Americans to give them money! The dialog in some of those videos was laughably asinine. One of the lines was so funny: "When I inhale, it's like the smoke is massaging my breasts, but from the inside". That is so patently idiotic. And she said it repeatedly, so someone must have thought it would be a turn-on. Ugh.
Really, that's about the size of it. Fifteen years of browsing the internet to indulge a fetish. I considered including the hyperlinks to all of the sites I referenced. But seriously. You all know how to Google or Bing. Don't you?
Early on I would purchase Videos for my VCR. Once married, I suspended that practice, however, Smoking Models and Colight were two where I purchased multiples. SM is still probably the top producer of videos I really liked. From music to lighting, they had it all. Then the Utube freebies came to the market place, and I haven't purchased since. If I was single, and didn't have an outlet at home, then I would most likely be going back. One time downloads I've alway been suspect of, since it involves giving out a credit card number and I'm so fearful of that. My biggest guilt, and I don't know for sure, is Twyla79. If 79 is her birth year, ahem, that would make her age right smack between my daughter and son. Ahem. Yeah, some guilt there!
ReplyDeleteYeah, Mick, big soft spot (or hard spot as the case may be) for Twyla.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, Perplexed, I see a lot of parallels here in my Web experience over the years, except for the fact I like both the porn AND non-porn stuff about equally.
I second your emotion on the lack of women just smoky kissing. No nudity, nothing else, just smoky kisses. You'd think there'd be a lot more, but what there is is mostly Coherent Light-produced. I've always found kissing to be incredibly sensual and erotic, especially between women, so I can't imagine why this isn't mined more in video form. I can't imagine you and I are the only people who seriously, seriously dig that.
Wow...I could have written that whole post (except for all whites, which I prefer). Inreallife.net and specialized videos where two other sites I spent money for downloading videos. While I didn't delete my collection, my hard drive died. Yep, I too stumbled across the Mary Ellen video...it was sort of like reality TV for smoking fetishists.
ReplyDeleteWow, I could actually have written this post, we have the same "history" about the fetish and the seeking for clips. Great post.
ReplyDeleteI am "Ms. Annoymous" still reading your history and wanted to make a comment from the perspective of a woman who does not smoke caring about a guy with this fetish. You have mentioned several times that a woman who does not smoke doing this for you feels like she is trying to "get you to do something". This feels very odd for me to read. I do not know what your relationship was with these women so perhaps they were trying to get you to buy them something or do the dishes or whatever. But... if they were just wanting to see you aroused - is that so bad? Is there something wrong with a woman doing something because she wants to arouse a guy she cares about? Woman are acculturated to do that. In general, women don't wear heals, make-up, scratchy lace thongs, etc because they feel good. Women alone at home do not look like that in general! They are wearing PJs, Large bedroom slippers and have cold cream on their faces to get the makeup off! We women are taught from early childhood that we should try to be attractive for our man. I am more of the au-natural type but I would not dream of going on a date without bathing and washing and brushing my hair and putting on something I think - for example - looks good with my eyes or makes my chest look good. Am I trying to "get a guy to do something"? It would be more comfortable for me to arrive as-is but I don't.... Is trying to be attractive for my guy me trying to get him to do something for him? Where is the line?
ReplyDeleteDear Ms. Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteThanks for posting the comment and asking your question. Actually, it's interesting to me that my writing has given you the impression that I felt that women were doing it in exchange for getting something in return. If I step back and look at "the history" thus far, there is only one person whom I can honestly say was probably complying with my fetish in an implicit kind of deal where I was probably being expected to comply with what were essentially demands or requirements, of a very different nature. There, it had nothing to do with the fetish, of course, and I recognize that. It could have, and probably would have been anything that could be a bargaining chip. I won't really say anymore than that.
But your observation is very valid: women *want* to turn on their guy. It's interesting, because I do think that guys also want to turn on their woman, but it's a different mechanism I think. Going back to the "men are more visual than women" point (if that's even valid), the heels, and the stockings, and the nail polish, and makeup, and in my case, the fetish, are all things that are turn ons to some or many men.
Because the fetish is "different" I got very attached to the idea that a woman was being forced to do something against her will, and never realized that it's not a heck of a lot different from other things women do for men.
Writing this blog, and talking about it with a few people, including my partner, helped me to see that it's not really different at all.
This is really well-written and thoughtful. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteamazing blog. im probably going to subscribe.
ReplyDeletehi, my name is joel. i am in a similar position to you, searched random sites for a while, never wanted to pay money, tried youtube on a whim and never looked back. also im not a fan of sexually oriented videos, as far as im concerned its not needed if the girl is a good smoker and attractive, backlighting etc.
the thing i wanted to address though is the random deleting of your video collection, ive done this too! i will amass a large collection of downloaded youtube videos that i am proud of, (in a secretive, semi-disgusted way) and one day i will just decide its time to delete them all. it usually happens after ive spent some time alone... in front of my computer...
but i think i have a fairly intense subconscious hatred/disgust towards my fetish. which creates some kind of internal conflict.
the act of smoking has always bewildered and disgusted me. when i was a kid i guess you could say it scared me a little. i found it a little unsettling that someone would voluntarily do that to themselves, and yet, now i am intensely atrracted to women who do.
maybe thats what you experience, i dont know.
but anyway, id love to stay in contact with you. your blogs are intelligent and well thought out, and i find it helpful to hear from someone else who has the fetish but is maybe a little further down the track than i am (im 17. i still live with my mum etc. its a struggle.)
hope to talk later :)
joel.
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ReplyDeleteThanks again. I have just spent two amazing hours reading every single blog post. This is my story as well! I too have deleted my video collections every 6 months after spending time and money collecting it. Its definatly the shame that kills me!
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